People always talk about how you need to “discover you.” However, one of the most profound quotes I heard recently went like this:
Life is not about finding your purpose; it is about creating it.
What if, instead of trying to find ourselves, we started creating our lives? Instead of waiting to stumble into the things you’re passionate about to “discover you,” what if you created it?
I came up with a list of questions to help you create your best self. I invite you to ponder on and answer each question as honestly as you can. The more honest you are with yourself, the easier it is to know who you really are.
Another thing I want to mention before you dive in is to remember that each of us has self-limiting beliefs. This means that you might have formed beliefs, at weak points of your life, that make you feel inadequate and put restrictions on your potential. For example, my dad reprimanded me as a child because I couldn’t speak clearly and I stuttered all the time. He also mocked my siblings when they said things incorrectly. It made me believe that it was better to not talk at all. This limiting self-belief disappeared as I grew older and realized I have a voice and message to share with the world.
As you answer these questions, be conscious of the limiting self-beliefs that crop up and replace those beliefs with new, intentional beliefs. You have great potential for good and can create a beautiful you.
Questions to create you:
Is there a topic or issue in the world that I feel strongly about and would like to help solve?
If I had to leave the house for a day, what would I do?
If I had to write an essay on something I wanted to learn or that I already enjoy doing, what would it be?
Is there a place I’ve ever wanted to travel to but haven’t yet? Where is it? What makes that place so interesting to me?
Am I fulfilling some of my adolescent dreams? If not, what do I need to do differently?
What things bring you the greatest joy and satisfaction? Why?
What kind of relationships do you want to have?
Who is your role model, mentor, or someone you admire? Why?
What do I want my eulogy to say about my life?
Who do I enjoy being around? Why?
Is there something I always look forward to? Why?
Is there one (or a few) thing(s) I’ve always dreamed of doing or seeing?
If I could take a course on any topic in the world, what would it be?
What am I most grateful for in my life?
List my gifts and talents. Is there something else I’d like to develop?
Now what?
I hope these questions help you on your journey of creating YOU. Sometimes it’s scary to think of your own full potential and “discover you.” It can feel like, “What would actually happen if I succeeded?” Instead of thinking of the worst-case scenario (which is probably a direct result of limiting self-beliefs), think of all the wonderful things that could come of reaching your goals.
If you’re still wondering how you can continually create you, try the 5 Hawaiian Days to Wellness course to build your character and strengthen your relationships.!
I wish you well!
Lots of aloha,
Lei
